Where Have All the Cowboys Gone for Christmas?

Nov 17, 2010 | Full Time Family | 10 comments

So it’s been ages since I wrote about Men in America but I stumbled across this list by one of my favorite pastors and it got me to thinking… what if every man or let’s say, every Believing man attacked the Holidays with this sort of intention and vigor… and I used the word “attacked” with on purpose because I think most men go on auto pilot at this time of year let the wife do everything from the gift selecting to memory making.  Men are to be conquerors and leaders but who ends up pushing the cart, making the plans, over committing herself, writing the cards, RSVPing to the parties, choosing the presents, picking which church service to attend… 
les femmes.
And I think that stinks.  
Now I know these things are more a woman’s domain but I still think there is no excuse for men to go on auto pilot around Christmas just because Mom is more handy with calender and a roll of scotch tape… ask Mom December 15th what she needs more, an extra roll of scotch tape… or a scotch!  
I think leaving Christmas to the women feminizes church, family time, meal time, tradition and Jesus.
What if Christian woman walked around beaming at this time of the year (instead of looking like stressed out, frazzled, over committed disasters) because Hubby was at the helm actually guiding and leading his family thru these weeks we call “The Holidays.”  
Just a thought.

From Pastor Mark:

  1. Dad needs a plan for the holidays to ensure his family is loved and memories are made. Dad, what’s your plan?
  2. Dad needs to ensure his family is giving generously during the holidays. Dad, who in need is your family going to adoptbless, and serve?
  3. Dad needs to carve out time for sacred events and experiences to buildfamily traditions that are fun and point to Jesus. Dad, is you calendar ready for December?
  4. Dad needs to not let the stress of the holidays, including money, cause him to be grumpy with Mom or the kids. Dad, how’s your joy?
  5. Dad needs to make memories and not just give gifts. Dad, what special memories can you make this holiday season?
  6. Dad needs to manage the extended family and friends during the holidays. Dad, who or what do you need to say “no” to?
  7. Dad needs to schedule a big Christmas date with his daughter(s). Dad, what’s your big plan for the fancy Daddy-daughter date?
  8. Dad needs to schedule guy time with his son(s). Dad, what are you and your son(s) going to do that is active, outdoors, and fun?
  9. Dad needs to help get the house decorated. Dad, are you really a big help to Mom with getting things ready?
  10. Dad needs to ensure there are some holiday smells and sounds. Dad, is Christmas music on the iPod, is the tree up, can you smell cookies and cider?


  1. Sammi @ Stormy Hen Creations

    Great post…love Mark! I would just like to add….we women need to make sure that we LET GO of some control. My hubby does help…but sometimes it is hard for me to LET him help, because he doesn’t do things the right way (aka MY WAY).

  2. Carissa

    Another GREAT post Angela!!!! I loved your “original” cowboy post too! It is one of my favorites of yours!!! We are definitely on the same page! 🙂
    PS I’ve been meaning to email you back re: your comment on my blog, Can’t wait to chat with you about it and find out more. I’m happy for you!!! 🙂

  3. Blondie's Journal

    Now that you have written this…I’m fired up. And I’m just STARTING to get stressed out…not full blown yet. If I were to disappear, there would be no Christmas here. I don’t think they even realize that I am making the traditions and memories. My husband puts up the tree and lights {after I go out and buy it} and then walks away…doesn’t even keep me company while I decorate it. When I pull the beast out of the oven on Christmas day, he proudly carves it like it’s for The Last Supper and he made it!

    I think we are going to have a chat tonight…


  4. Gail at Victorian at Heart

    Thanks for the reminder. I shared this with the Pastors at my church so maybe they can share too. A great post. Christ is the Reason we can enjoy the Season.

  5. Stephanie

    A hearty AMEN! Love #6, yes please.

  6. Pamela

    I have to proudly say my hubby never falls short when it comes to anything with the house and family. He is on top of everything…literally. He is an amazing man who I have never ever in 18yrs picked up after. He is a true leader. It’s no wonder my mom-in-law always says she wants him back. Alot of men could learn so much from him. He makes Christmas stressless!
    Great post.

  7. Harvest Moon

    You make a great point. It would be nice for the men to take some leadership in this area. I think I’ll print out paster Mark’s plan’s for Christmas and put them up on the frig. See if he even notices.
    It would be nice for him to start some traditons and to pass them down to our boys.

  8. Beth Hazelton

    Love this post! From your list to God’s ears…


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