Forget unschooling… All ya’ll school moms are like, “YIPPEE” while we homeschool moms are like, Jesus take the Wheel! It’s almost time to start back up! Homeschooling is by far the most difficult, incredible thing I’ve ever put my hand and heart to. I will confess and be straight up, I am easily discouraged (while I walk around encouraging others. There’s plenty of reason to set aside this nonsense. I’ve got Charlotte Mason, Ambleside online and for goodness sake…I have a brain. And so forget “unschooling”… how about “UNMOMMING”?
There’s a mantra in the homeschool community, “No one is better equipped to be your child’s teacher than you.” (If you’re a teacher and I’ve ruffled feathers… better just jump down to the YouTube video and call it a day.).
AND DARN IT ANGELA… IT’S TRUE.
“Unschooling” is about child-led learning… look, I’m all for following their interests, which is what this post will ultimately be about but can we just talk about me for a second? ‘Cause I’ve got “issues” á la Chris Farley. And so, I’m in the mood this evening for some serious “UNMOMMING” as I face another year of Teacher Momma. (That’s what my kiddos call me during school hours). I’m casting off all doubt and hang-ups and going in for full-on Mom-led schooling. ‘Cause, after all, I know what’s best.
Now, this mental commitment to stop second-guessing myself, to teach them what I want them to know and to stop comparing myself to unknown Pinterest homeschool moms is going to take a serious paradigm shift and so,
Let us commence with a letter to me…
A homeschooling pep talk
You’re a failure. No, but seriously… You and I both know it. You long to teach your kids Latin but can’t read most of the state motto’s, you wish they were little Brontë children, writing their own plays and morphing into literary legends (wait a minute, didn’t the brother totally die of drink?)… you crave the Catechism stamped into their little hearts and minds but dang it… they can’t even come to the table with sharpened pencils… you want to be this strong, homeschool mom, I know you do. People are watching and way beyond that, you feel a responsibility to those gorgeous children.
Get over yourself girlfriend.
She wants you to knock it off. She loves you, OK, probably not. She’s dead. But she wants to remind you that your classroom is not a home-based version of the school down the road. She wants you to be secure that bug catching and being read aloud to IS learning. She wants you to KNOW that your children’s minds CAN absorb the literature you are trying to expose them to. She wants you to keep seeing the beauty in what you are doing. It IS noble and it IS good.
Breathe in. Breathe out. You’ll never get it right and that’s why you’re the teacher rather than someone else. It’s good for your kids to see you try, learn, repent, juggle, teach, overcome… You’ve chosen this path for your family because in your heart and mind there is NO OTHER alternative. Stand firm. Listen to your own advice… Lord knows you blab it all the time…
“Don’t look to the right, or to the left. Put your blinders on and don’t look up until you’ve hit the finish line.”
UnMom yourself. Do you have a subject you want them to learn? TEACH THEM. To hell whether it works into the Ambleside online curriculum. You’re a homeschooler for flexibility, inspiration and the love of learning. No matter how much you love Charlotte… she’d want you to be free.
UnMom yourself. For the love, if you can’t handle looking at the other homeschool moms on Instagram… Unfriend them. I know, you’ve never unfriended someone in your life… but can I quote you again? “It’s not show friends, it’s show business.” And you’ve got a job to do here sister. Getting all insecure because someone’s child can cover fourteen subjects in one day and you can barely get through spelling is stupid. “Don’t look to the right or to the left. Put your blinders on and don’t look up until you’ve hit the finish line.”
UnMom yourself. You CAN do this. Take that drive and discipline for your garden, your oil business, your workouts… and apply to the schoolroom. You HAVE the skill set and don’t let anyone or any podcast make you think otherwise.
Angela, you know your kids. You know how to communicate uniquely with each one. You know their needs, their struggles, there fortés and insecurities. This is the job you were made for. Keep Unmomming. Get ready for the school year.
You got this. Love, Yourself.
See, I’m going to apply UnMomming to my school year. I’m peaceful about it. I know it’s going to be difficult, wonderful, challenging and rewarding. I AM a failure but GOD fills in all the gaps with His Mercies, I am called to homeschool my children, I will continue to “UnMom” so it’s more and more about them and what I want them to know and less and less about me and my constantly wondering if I’m doing it right.
Darn it, these kids are amazing. Look at the crazy video they wanted to make with me about their love for raising Monarchs! They ARE amazing. We’ve had an incredible summer, there’s still a few weeks left and we are going to have an incredible school year. Unmomming along the way.