Snapshots in Conversation – To Infinity and Beyond

May 26, 2011 | On Motherhood, Snapshots in Coversation | 10 comments

If you want to double over in laughter just get my son talking about any of his favorite subjects:
Jesus – The Bible.  (He can practically tell you the whole story cover to cover).
Taxes/the Government.
Volcanic Activity.
and of course…
Outer space.
He is a veritable chatterbox and his vocabulary is hilarious for someone who will turn six next month.  He employees words like, horizon, actually, responsibility, prefer, convince, disappointed and more… He’ll preface a dissertation with, “Can we talk about…” or “Can I ask a question…
And he is off and running….  Good luck getting a word in edgewise.

I read recently in a phenomenal parenting book that if we don’t give them our undivided attention now when they speak we can’t expect them to want to engage us in conversation when they are teens.  Not much irritates me more than a sullen, withdrawn teen (or adult for that matter).  Aidan is quite a talker, full of lengthy, DETAILED, long, explanations… it’s actually one of my biggest pet peeves when a fellow adult shows impatience during one of his speeches – let the kid talk and fake that you’re interested for crying out loud you big jerk.  Do you have something better to do?  I have been guilty of this myself of course (which is usually the case with pet peeves).

There are a couple easy ways we can show our kids that their little words matter:

-If you are walking thru a room as they chatter, stop and turn your body towards them.

-Try to say, “Just a minute” as few times as possible during the day.  Whatever you were gonna do can wait 6 minutes.  The world won’t come to an end.  I know the “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  “Mom”  comes rapid fire and your head might feel like it’s going to implode if someone says it one more time – but we have to get over ourselves, pray for patience and remember our Father who would have us turn to him a thousand times a day if we so desired.

-Sit down while they talk.

-If your computer is in a family space like ours is, close the dang cover or turn it off.  That goes for IPhone’s too.  Detach that thing from your body – I promise, you will survive.

-Encourage other siblings to not interrupt but that means you can’t either – HA!

Aidan has given so many hilarious dissertations
 in the last few days this is JUST a quick sampling:

Aidan:  Dad, would you mind if we talk about Gemini 6 right now?

Joel: Sure Buddy.

Aidan: Gemini 6, Gemini 7, Gemini 12.  Gemini 12 blew up for a matter of fact.  It was like this much off the launch pad and then, the bottom started leaning because it wasn’t straightened properly.   Then ka-boom.  Remember one of the spaceships that is kind from our kind of space ships?  Then it went up and like three pieces went everywhere?

Me:  That was the Challenger buddy.

Aidan:  If I was the President this time I am making them go to the moon.  I don’t care how much it costs.  I about cry when I saw them putting our flag on the moon.  And it’s still there.  God made the moon.  He did a pretty nice job.  Dad, did you know someone is gonna go back to the moon?  I guarantee it.


  1. Blondie's Journal

    Everything you wrote is so true. Even now that my kids are young adults, I drop what I do to listen to them. I don’t know who is listening to them out in that big world, but they are going to get it at home.

    Aidan is precious, as are all your children. I love the pictures on your sidebar!


  2. Liesl

    In teaching horse riding to kids,you have a lot of chatterboxes around. Yesterday I took a brother and sister on a out ride and they were bombarding me with so many questions and throwing words around at each head was positively spinning!! I just couldn’t keep track!

  3. Mac n' Janet

    What a wonderful post! You have a great kid, and that’s a reflection of you being a great parent. Enjoy, they grow up much too soon.

  4. omega57

    Can so remember those happy days of sweet talk with my youngest son. Sometimes I asked him to not talk just for one minute. Now I ask him to talk for as many as he will! He’s 24 adn rather busy.
    Linda @bushel and a pickle

  5. à la parisienne

    Aidan’s little dissertation brought tears to my eyes because I can’t stand the thought of America letting go of the space program-talk about crashing the wonderment of children and adults. It is a shame.

    One thing I’ve always taught Amelia to do is to look at me when I’m talking to her or to look at others during a conversation.
    It wasn’t too long after that lesson that Amelia started to say “Chchchch…Mommy pay attention,” if I was preoccupied with another task. So, yes, the rules and expectations should be reciprocal.

    And as for your last post, we don’t have iphones either and hope to NEVER have them. I can’t stand to watch mothers in the grocery stores with children in the carts as they mindlessly push while texting. I want to scream “Put that d*** thing away!”


  6. Carolyne

    Those are such precious memories!
    You are right…the book, too…..engaging them now will be a stepping stone to friendship when they’re older.
    Some of my best conversations were with two to eight year-olds and now~(oh, MY!) they’re thirty and they still talk to me.
    You’re the Best!

  7. cnjhooker

    Yes, everything you said! I pleaded with my daughter-in-law to record her daughters when they were young chatting, reporting, dancing and singing songs like “Twink-dle, twink-dle little star…” She did not and those moments are gone. Those precious little voices and pronunciations are singular moments in your history and theirs. Please record your son and your daughters all along the way. Casually, informally, maybe once a week like an audible and visual journal. You will NEVER regret it! Use whatever video you can that will be able to be remastered onto whatever the technology is to come. Merci pour vous blog!!! Je l’aime!

  8. Victoria

    “I about cry when I saw them putting our flag on the moon. And it’s still there. God made the moon. He did a pretty nice job.”

    Well said! He’s got a great amount of curiosity. Just don’t tell him the moon landing was a hoax… kidding! =)

  9. Kathysue

    Absolutely priceless and great sound advice to anyone talking to a loved one of any age!! Kathysue

  10. Joannah

    What a precious boy!


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