Sexy is Always in Style

Mar 16, 2008 | Uncategorized | 7 comments

No, that is not my quote. I had the misfortune of reading that on the shirt of a…and I use the term loosely, “young lady” at Blockbuster last night.

What in Hades has happened to femininity ladies? From flip flops at the white house (ghastly!) to butt crack at Panera. What is going on????

When in the world did being feminine become something that was not desired. Sometimes I SWEAR girls and women today are going OUT OF THEIR WAY to be NOT feminine. I mean if you have got boobs and a fanny it’s something you really have to work at – not being feminine. Even the cheapest of stores offer a smattering of makeup and clothing that helps identify oneself and the fairer sex.

Goodness, yesterday I sang at church and I was the ONLY girl in a skirt. It’s so funny how we are all so different. I don’t even OWN a pair of khakis (unless you are in pretty darn good shape I think they are a most unattractive color pant for a girl to wear!) But come on – it is really to the point where I get self conscious – like I am attracting attention to myself simply because I enjoy wearing skirts at and necklace! It really irritates me.

I’m loosing my train of thought. But perhaps it’s such an overwhelming subject that I don’t know where to begin!!! But for heavens sake buy a dress and put that damned cell phone in your purse (not on your belt loop!). Are you managing a construction sight? No! Put that thing away!!!

This poor girl last night stood with shoulders slumped, hair very greasy and shirt very tight over what appeared to be a stack of inflatable tires. My first thought was a very genuine, “Oh, sweetheart, why are you wearing that shirt so tight?” and then I saw the caption,


Now there are many flaws in this statement, the first being that if you have to market yourself as “sexy” you are already a point or TEN down in the game. In my opinion “sexy” is what you are perceived to be. YOU don’t get to decide if you are “sexy” or not.

But why did a 14 year old, overweight, greasy haired girl feel the need to wear a skin tight football jersey reading “Sexy is always in style”? I then glanced over at her mother – and forgive my clearly superficial assessments here – but mom was equally as greasy haired, long and stringy down her back with a giant sweatshirt on, dirty tennis shoes and cuffed jeans. Her stance was one of aggression while her daughters eyes would barely lift beyond the horizon.

It broke my heart.

I imagined a legacy of hard men, alcohol. A home with a television blaring (Jerry Springer’s guests screaming and giving three snaps about what “real women” are!). I pictured a man walking out and a mom shattered and withdrawn. Presenting a hard, unattractive self so as to never be hurt again. A daughter wanting so badly to be told she was beautiful (let alone taught how to take care of herself!) that she would wear a horribly snug t-shirt advertising herself as cheap, available and…sexy.

I am off-track again but my mind does wonder….

This is not femininity. I love a little decollétage now and then but tight clothes and cleavage does not a woman make.

My mind is whirling on this subject but before I spout off further since my thoughts are not well organized – I’d like to know what you think is “feminine” or how you would describe the word….


  1. HomemakerAng

    but crack at panera has me DYING LAUGHING! lets try but crack and thong at CHURCH!!! bending down for the whole congregation to see! YUHP! I just couldn’t let that one go, had to say something… my son, husband and girls got to enjoy the show too…

  2. HomemakerAng

    oh, well, don’t even start with why girls dress this way! Perhaps we need to take a good and very long hard look at how mommy dresses in public, I am referring to THEIR mommy! How can I tell my girls they can’t wear a bikini when I do? How can I tell my girls i don’t want to see cleavage if I do? How can i tell my girls not to radiate and ooze sex if I do.

    You know by now where I stand on all of this… 🙂

    One reason we started the Young Maiden’s Literary Society… I have not gotten together as a group for a while with baby and all, but these things NEED TO BE TAUGHT and wearing a dress is becoming a very lost art! By the time our girls are grown, we will hardly see a dress on anyone unless at a wedding and if you have checked lately, women hardly even wear dresses to weddings unless they are in the wedding or mother of the bride or the bride herself. We don’t wear dresses everyday here but I make it a rule on Sunday’s we wear dresses. Not becuase its drudgery and we are under the law but because one day a week we can give our best to Jesus and take a stand that it is an important thing to go to his house of worship and all that jazz. I know he wouldn’t mind if we wore pants, but why not get dressed up for him… After all, we are the bride of CHRIST…


  3. HomemakerAng

    my website for it is VERY lame right now and feminine is even spelled wrong on the home page…

  4. Tanya

    ROFL, the cell phone on the pants=working on a construction site…too funny.
    I do hide my phone in my pocket and i have to confess to being a jeans type girl, although I think jeans can be femenine (sp?) with a cute top. I’ve never been much for dresses, maybe because I was an only girl and my mom made me wear dresses 24/7. I guess I’m rebelling.

  5. Julee Ann

    I’m glad we each have our own blog to spout off on! Could you imagine a blog world where everyone held the same opinion? B-O-R-I-N-G with a capital–well, everything.

    I got new jeans for Easter Sunday. 🙂

  6. Parisienne Farmgirl

    Juls you crack me up! Yes I think jeans can be feminine. Im not talking about jeans – I am just talking about this look that some women have these days. I think it is sad and like Homemaker said some of these things are a lost art.
    The older I get the more I consider that attire can be a way we honor those around us. Like a sign of respect and maybe that is why things are so casual these days because there are so few people to respect and we don’t respect the people that we should respect. (IE Flip flops at the white house…and I don’t even like our president!)
    It’s that egalitarian society thing. “He is just the president, I am who I am, so I am wearing flip flops to the white house.” I suppose the same girls would not know to say “Ma am” to the the
    queen. In rerfering to the ladies at my church – I sure don’t think EVERYONE should where a skirt all the time or every Sunday but I was trying to point out the ratio – One skirt to 8 or 9 pants.
    It’s sad I think.


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