Settling Down a Mother’s Heart

Mar 4, 2024 | On Motherhood, The Parisienne Farmhouse | 6 comments

Tomorrow is the big day.

If you’re up to speed on blog posts you know that Anaïs fell last week and broke two bones in her leg. Surgery is scheduled for the crack of dawn tomorrow.

This weekend, stewing over the near future, I found myself moving towards some serious mental chaos. That’s a sure sign for me that it’s time to get quiet. I typically face a challenge head-on, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy for me. It doesn’t mean that a bold, seemingly fearless personality doesn’t come with stress, grief, anxiety, or racing thoughts – it’s just that some personalities climb up to the crow’s nest to take the pelting rain right in the face. There’s a LOT of stuff I’m not too happy about dealing with right now. I’d rather not, quite frankly. It would be so much easier to find a good bank of sand and bury my head in it but…

There’s me – Up there like Lt. Dan.

In the case of broken bones, it’s not my turn to climb to the crow’s nest. Instead, I have to stand by and watch my sweet girl face this hurdle, experience this pain, and grow from it. After church, I still couldn’t turn my brain down to a low roar, so I went to the conservatory to get oily:)

Filming AND painting is a lot of work, but I felt that there may be some of you who have your own mental hurdles this week. Maybe you needed some lovely music and color to quiet your brain and ‘settle down your heart’.

Settle down your heart is a family expression. Anaïs herself coined it when she was very little one day when I was teaching her about how to react or not react to siblings who were pestering her. She said it so aptly and the expression has stuck. I use it all the time.

In keeping my mind quiet and heart settled as we prepare for tomorrow with meals, laundry, a full gas tank, and a good night’s sleep, I’ll keep my words brief today. Thank you for your prayers for Anaïs’s successful surgery and swift recovery.

If we were having a friendly coffee and you were struggling, I’d remind you to spend time outside, exercise, play your instrument, or create something and pray, then be quiet as you “settle down your heart”.

I’ll take my own advice.

Psalm 46

God is our refuge and strength,
    an ever-present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way
    and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,
though its waters roar and foam
    and the mountains quake with their surging.[c]

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
    the holy place where the Most High dwells.
God is within her, she will not fall;
    God will help her at break of day.
Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;
    he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

The Lord Almighty is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Come and see what the Lord has done,
    the desolations he has brought on the earth.
He makes wars cease
    to the ends of the earth.
He breaks the bow and shatters the spear;
    he burns the shields[d] with fire.
10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;
    I will be exalted among the nations,
    I will be exalted in the earth.”

11 The Lord Almighty is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our fortress.


  1. floridamom

    You have found the very best way to overcome obstacles and stand victorious after the hard stuff.
    God and His word..powerful.

  2. Jenny

    Love that, “quiet down your heart”. I will pray for Anais, the surgery, and recovery. Whispering “Jesus I trust in you”, has helped us through a 12 year illness with my youngest. He is now a man, and the years laid up have reaped a harvest in him spiritually, and for many he ministers to. Not our plan for sure, as he was my wild child full of energy, but we have seen God work it for good.

  3. Janice Reed

    Prayers for Anais, her surgeon and medical team and for you and the family.

  4. Dorothy Freeman

    Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your family.

  5. Jennifer

    I very much hope Anaïs sails right through surgery and recovery, and that you all find new rhythms and systems that make it easier for her. My own daughter broke those same bones and a heel bone hopping off a Razor scooter in 2018 when she was 23. She stayed with us for 6w as she and her bf were one week from moving 300mi away. Her surgery was also delayed, and I was grateful when it finally happened. Two tips —wheeled knee scooters come in different sizes based on a persons height; and although some may get frustrated catering to the beck and call of a somewhat immobilized person, the immobilized person should never be made to feel like they’re putting us out for want of simple things we can provide them. God bless yall.

  6. Rachele

    All the love and prayers to you, Anais, and your family. Thank you for this beautiful reflection.


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