My Tips for Beautiful Skin After Forty

Feb 22, 2019 | Beauty and Style, Essential oils, The Parisienne Farmhouse | 14 comments

Hello Lovelies!

Mirror time is limited as a mother of six. My self-care needs to be quick, effective and ON POINT. I don’t have time for bad looking skin and neither do you.

In response to questions about how I care for my skin, I thought I’d share with you seven ways that you can care for your over-forty skin.  

Not over forty? Your day is coming girlfriend. This blog post is for you too.

My heart is to encourage you to care for yourself. Whether you’re a mother or not, no doubt you are a caregiver of some sort. Caring for parents, caring for friends, committed to your job and your responsibilities. And yet, friend to friend, I’m encouraging you to care for yourself. It will take intention and action, but you are so very worth it.

I’m committed to taking care of my skin because of the way I see it, it’s the outfit you wear every day. I know there are so many of us who spend more time caring for our clothes, getting out stains, selecting the washer cycle, running them to the dry cleaners, but we do not set aside a few minutes a day to care for this ONE skin system that we have. We spend more time on a blouse than we do our birthday suit.

And so, here are a few ways that you can begin to care for your over-forty skin and remember my darling spring chickens… these ideas are for you too. Thought you’d enjoy the video too:)

(I want to warn the squeamish that there is a burn photo to appear as you slowdown… be forewarned:)


The first way I care for my skin each day is hydration. Fantastically simple.

Ladies, we can’t simply drink red wine and espresso all day long, though I wish that we could. Hydration is key to a healthy body and your skin is the outermost covering of that body so keep it hydrated. I find the simplest way to do this is to keep a few quart jars of water on the kitchen counter so I can grab them and sip them all day.

To make it fun, I drink carbonated water. I have a Soda Stream and I LOVE it. It’s more affordable than keeping up with my Pelligrino addition. It’s not quite the same but it does the trick. And bonus, it keeps me feeling full so I don’t overeat.



In the spirit of staying hydrated, let’s talk about keeping everything healthy and shiny.  Almonds, avocado, olives, olive oil, coconut oil, omega 3’s

These are wonderful for your skin. Omega 3s helps reduce inflammation (for those of us who struggle with adult acne) and they help restore moisture to the skin.   

Avocados are high in vitamin E with stimulates collagen production and their monosaturated fat helps hydrate the skin which is something that’s vital to “over 40 skin”

Think about the beautiful women you’ve seen when vacationing in Greece or Italy. It’s sort of disconcerting how gorgeous they all seem, isn’t it? We hear that expression “Mediterranean diet” but think about it….

Consumption of olives and olive oil which may be considered staples of their way of life, aids in an increase of vitamin A and E. These two vitamins strengthen connective tissues, protects against UV damage and improves skin tone. What we’re doing here is we are lubricating the cells girls.

Coconut oil is a fav for many skin care junkies. It can be consumed and used topically. Because of its antimicrobial properties adding it to your diet may decrease those pesky pimples.



Now let’s talk about beauty from the inside out. I am NOT a supplement person however I swear but doTERRA’s Lifelong Vitality Pack. They have helped me with aches and pains from gardening, farm-work and workouts, they are packed with sustainable, excellent Omega 3’s, bio-available whole foods and a complete round of essential, chelated vitamins and minerals.

These supplements have total approval from my midwife who I partner with for my health. I SWEAR that my skin is in much better condition than before I began to use these five years ago. That’s an incredibly powerful thing. To have your skin look better in your forties than you did in your thirties is amazing. (See a photo of me from five years ago in the video!)

I’m happy to say I’ve seen it over and over again with my oil customers who use this product too.



Scrub it off. Scrub it off.

You KNOW this. You’ve been told, but your skin is constantly dying off and regenerating and you’ve GOT to get rid of those dead skin cells. If your skin is looking dull and flat, I would suppose you need to step it up in the exfoliating department.

And for heaven’s sake – please wash your makeup off at night. PROMISE ME.



Essential oils play a vital role in my skincare routine. When I first learned of the ideas of using oils on my skin I thought it was ludicrous. Wouldn’t oils just make everything WORSE?

Hardly. Essential oils are fat soluble so they are readily absorbed into the skin. Many of them assist in cell repair, or they are antimicrobial, anti-fungal… it’s really an incredible Pandora’s Box. There are so many oils that are so helpful, and so it’s actually helpful to pick your favourites. So here are my fav’s (expanded from the info on my YouTube video).

Many of you know I suffered a second-degree burn last year when I dumped BOILING water all over a bare leg (I had a short workout skirt on). I will post the photos below to this is your “heads up” if you are squeamish. But I want you to know, I ONLY used oils on this burn and I have NO SCAR to speak of.  So imagine what they can do for any damage you are experiencing on your face.

-Blue Tansy oil. If you were only going to buy ONE oil for your face, I think it would HAVE to be Blue Tansy. It’s like anxiety medication for your face. It helps your skin “calm the heck down!”.

-Frankincense oil. Nature’s antidepressant and a cellular repair oil. I’ve used it to get rid of nasty age spots that wouldn’t go away after pregnancy.   

-Rose oil. Antibacterial, soothing and gorgeous. Rose oil is as feminine as it gets and is a valuable addition to your skin care

-Yarrow Pom oil. This is a gorgeous combination of Yarrow and Pomegranate. It’s like a LAYER OF SILK for your skin. So if you suffer from rough, uneven skin or just want to feel like Cleopatra… This one is for you.

-Geranium oil. I will confess. I hate the smell of this one but darned if it isn’t incredible for your skin.

-Immortelle blend. This is my go-to oil for keeping it simple.  Roll it all over from forehead to boobs and don’t forget the tops of your hands, (featured in the YouTube Video)



Get my favorites here…

You have to use skin care. Promise me you’re not going to simply bust out the Neutrogena bar and hop into bed. Your over-40 skin is craving you some serious pampering but if you’re slathering yourself in poison twice a day you are missing the point.

Today’s women are exposed to hundreds of hormone-disrupting chemicals all day long.  

First and foremost, let’s talk about WHY NON-TOXIC SKINCARE IS IMPORTANT!

Check it:

1400 potentially harmful chemicals have been banned in the EU by the beauty savvy Europeans.  I happy to watch them lead the way here!  I will follow suit because… only 30 of those nasties are banned in the United States.

Over half the lipsticks in the US contain LEAD, people. For the love.



Allow me to jog your memory, I’m sure you’ve seen some of these ingredients in your skin care…

  • Parabens: Parabens are great at keeping yeast, mould, and bacteria from growing in your shampoo, body wash, lotions, and deodorant. They’re also linked to hormonal imbalances, early puberty, male sterility, and have even been found in breast cancer tissue. No thank you!
  • SLS: Ever wanted to wash with garage floor cleaner or clean out a jet engine? If you use a product that includes Sodium Laureth (or Lauryl) Sulfate, you’re not far off. This industrial-grade surfactant makes a foamy lather, as well as causes skin, eye, and lung irritation, depression, and diarrhoea. Fun!
  • PEGs: When PEGs (short for polyethene glycols) are made, they can easily be contaminated with highly carcinogenic compounds, some of which are also known to harm the nervous system and interfere with human development.
  • Retinyl Palmitate: So this one is really baffling – a retinyl palmitate is a form of Vitamin A that you’ll find in sport and beach sunscreens (stuff that’s supposed to protect you from cancer). However, your skin actually becomes more susceptible to sun damage (including cancer!) when this ingredient is present.
  • Fragrance: What’s a “fragrance?” Who knows! A legal loophole lets manufacturers use this word as an umbrella term for thousands of chemicals. If a product lists “fragrance” as an ingredient, there’s no way of telling what it really contains.
  • FD&C colourants: These synthetic colourants are added to skin care products to make them look nice. Know what doesn’t look nice? Skin irritation and sensitivity, which is what you’ll get from the toxic deposits this coal tar derived ingredient will leave on your skin.
  • Petroleum: Petroleum-extracted ingredients can cause contact dermatitis and are easily contaminated with impurities that are linked to, you guessed it, cancer. Oh, and they’re produced in oil refineries alongside automobile fuel, chemical feedstocks, and heating oil. Charming.
  • Propylene Glycol: Did you know the EPA considers Propylene Glycol so toxic that it requires disposal by burying? It’s not surprising that even very small concentrations can cause dermatitis and hives.
  • Sunscreen Chemicals: Another entry in the “baffling” category. So many of the chemicals used in sunscreens, including avobenzone, oxybenzone, cinnamate, octisalate, and octinoxate, are associated with cellular damage and cancer.
  • Phthalates: Do you like the idea of an increased risk of breast cancer, reproductive birth defects, and liver/kidney damage? Then you’re going to love phthalates! Don’t be fooled if you don’t seem them on an ingredients list – they often hide under the “fragrances” umbrella.

These are common ingredients in Ponds. Neutrogena. Clearasil. Rodan and Fields. Estée Lauder. This is a problem, right? Do you have any of these in your current cleansers?   

I mentioned not buying skincare from the drug store, it used to be the cheaper, the worse the ingredients, today it’s different though.  Cost does not actually mean quality…


Why I’ve sought another option:

It’s very easy to think that these ingredients in such a small amount don’t really matter but the truth is they ARE hormone disruptors.  Our hormonal system is our endocrine system. It includes our thyroid, adrenals, ovaries, pancreas, hypothalamus and pituitary glands. Endocrine-disrupting chemicals (EDCs) include substances in our environment, water, food, and personal care products that interfere with the production, transport, breakdown, binding, and elimination of hormones. Exposure to these chemicals ultimately affect the balance of the body that could lead to a number of health problems, including weight gain, hypothyroid, infertility, adrenal imbalances, estrogen dominance, lowered sperm counts, obesity, diabetes, and certain types of cancers. This can also affect the skin, the bodies largest organ.

I want you to know going forward that doTERRA’s skin care products are free of:
  • Artificial colours
  • Formaldehyde donors
  • Parabens
  • Phthalates
  • Propylene glycol
  • Diethanolamine (DEA)
  • Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES)
  • Sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS)
  • Toluene
  • Triethanolamine (TEA)
  • Animal testing


That’s great news and these are my three favs (don’t get me wrong… it’s ALL fabulous, but these are my favs.)

Verage Serum – A pea-sized drop will do you. All over, twice a day. It’s like covering your skin in satin. Frankincense, Hawaiian Sandalwood, Lavender, Myrhh, Helichrysum and Rose oil. This is a lipid complex that mimics your skin’s lipids when they are at their prime. It’s heavenly.

Hydrating Creme – Cocoa seed butter loaded with nutrients and topped off with lavender, frankincense, geranium and jasmine oils. This one gives you brand new skin in a matter of weeks.

Anti Aging Eye Creme – Frankincense, Ylang Ylang, and the powerhouse of Blue Tansy help target the signs of ageing around the delicate eye area. Keep it in the fridge for an extra treat for puffy eyes. Sublime!



And last but not least…


My last personal method for keeping my skin in top shape after 40 is my signature sunglasses and a wide-brimmed hat. I spend a TON of time outdoors, but do NOT believe in SPF (I understand that’s going to upset some people… that’s OK, we can still be friends).   

I wear large sunglasses to prevent squinting. Squinting makes wrinkles. Your mother probably told you once, “Don’t keep making that face, it might stay that way.” She wasn’t kidding.

People tease me all the time about my crazy hats, but that’s OK. I’m happy to channel my inner Holly Golightly and Princess Diana.  I’m protecting my chest, my face, my ears… all that delicate skin from excess sun exposure (and my hands are almost always decked in gardening gloves). Get your self a hat and some huge sunglasses. You’ll thank me. This is a discipline I adopted when I was thirty.   

Easy right? To summarize, this is how I take care of my skin I:

  1. Stay hydrated
  2. Eat healthy fats
  3. Take (doTERRA) supplements
  4. Exfoliate
  5. Use essential oils on my skin
  6. Use skin care morning and night
  7. Wear a wide-brimmed hat and sunglasses when outdoors.. always


I’m having a riot over on YouTube so I thank you for the subject recommendation. If there’s other content you’d like me to cover please let me know. It thrills me when you share your favourite Parisienne Farmgirl content. I’m grateful for that.

I hope you find some time to carve out of your busy life and care for yourself... skin included. Have a great weekend!

Beautiful Skin After 40


  1. Debbie

    What kind of soap do you use on your face as well as the body.

    • Hibiscus

      I just turned 40 and have crows lines and wrinkles forming everywhere. Which is better for wrinkles and age spots Doterra Yarrow Pom or Immortelle?? Also how long do essential oils stay on top of the skin even if consumed. I have exotic parrots and do not want them harmed if it came out my pores. How does yarrow make you feel? I saw they have pills you can take. I did not find enough info and not sure which will work best for wrinkles and blemishes especially deep wrinkles forming. Thanks

  2. Melissa

    How long do all these products last for you when using them twice per day? I am interested but they are pricey..worth it I am sure but am just curious how often per year I would need to buy them.

    • Parisienne Farmgirl

      I find that I am buying them 3-5 times a year depending on if my husband uses them sporadically with me.

  3. Vickie Stenger

    What do you wash your face with and make up do you use?

    • Parisienne Farmgirl

      Vicki, I use Trader Joe’s Tea Tree face wash to wash my face. There’s nothing wrong with doTERRA’s options, I just like how STRONG the Trader Joes one is. And I use Tarte Costmetics primarily because they don’t have all the junk in them. I’ve done a recent makeup video on YouTube. I’ll add it to this playlist and my makeup bag is always available for you to rummage thru in my Amazon shop.

  4. Jalika Hafeez

    Hi Angela. This is Jalika. Thank you for this wonderful and very true video. It’s given me good information on how we all should take more care of our skin and body. I’m 64ish. But, I don’t use makeup. But I plan to purchase an eye cream and a concealer. Please do a video on nails. Thank you again for this very important video. God bless you.

    • Parisienne Farmgirl

      You are always so kind Jalika. I’d be happy to do a video on hands and nails. Please let me know if you need any help getting your eye cream. You can use the link in the blog post and just remove items from the cart that you don’t want. Thanks for your encouragement.

  5. April

    Is there a YouTube video showing how you use the oils on your face?

    • Parisienne Farmgirl

      Would you believe I thought it was embedded into this post for you? Apparently, I didn’t save it when I did it. So now you should see it and there are others on the playlist where you will see application.

      • April

        I believe it. I’ve made the same mistake myself. Thanks!

  6. April

    I was actually hoping for more details about how much and how you apply the oils to your skin. Sort of a get ready with me or get unready with me video.


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