Ta-Ta Encore! (Love For My Sister Chelsea After Miscarriage)

Feb 4, 2012 | Full Time Family, On Motherhood | 29 comments

Please know I have permission to share this story…
 
You have turned for me my mourning 
 
into dancing; you have loosed my 
 
sackcloth and clothed me with
 
 gladness…
 
Psalm 30:11
Me (great with child) my sister Chelsea and my brother Nic on her wedding day last June.
Romantically featured in this months Belle Inspiration Magazine.  Thank you Mimi for all your help in the launch of Parisienne Farmgirl Magazine!

One morning late last fall I woke up from a horrible nightmare to sound of the phone ringing. In the dream Joel and I had been with my little sister Chelsea (10 years younger) in a hospital and they had lost her. Suddenly we couldn’t find her anywhere. I was running up and down the hallways shouting,

“Chelsea! Chelsea!”
We finally made our way to reception and a friend of mine was working the counter.  We begged her to let us use the intercom system to message Chels. After pleading with her she reluctantly agreed.
“Chelsea, it’s okay honey. We will find you! Chelsea, we are looking for you!” I sobbed. “Don’t be afraid.We will find you!”
Ring. Ring.
I snapped from my nightmare.
And in that instant I knew what had happened.
I grabbed the phone and saw the caller ID bearing her name. I took a deep breath and answered only to hear her sob,
“We lost Baby K last night.”
“I know, honey. I know.”
And we wept together. She had only recently found out she was expecting and she and her hubby were elated. I too lost my first baby to miscarriage and was hopefully able to offer the comfort that only someone who has experienced something so sad can.
Miscarriage makes a women feel so utterly helpless, guilty and empty. My heart ached for her. To this day Joel and I still shed tears over our little one who is in heaven with Jesus.
Weeks and weeks went by and poor Chelsea still felt dreadful. Feeling as though she was loosing her mind… feeling… but not dare saying that she thought she was still pregnant. She waited for the sickness and other symptoms to wear off and they finally did… almost.
Time passed and she thought she had come to be expecting again and so she met with the midwife and then the ultrasound guy came to the house. As he passed the wand over her belly she thought to herself, “Dang, that’s a big baby for 8 weeks along. Arms and legs already???”
You won’t believe this.
She was actually about 14 weeks. It appears as though she miscarried a twin last year! All the crazy notions she was too freaked out to mention out loud weren’t so crazy after all!
When she called to tell me, I could not stop laughing.
Obviously it is still sad, but it’s so wonderful too! The sadness that miscarriage brings is something I believe is not talked about enough… (I am fixing to do so soon). But God in his perfect plan has taken her mourning and turned it into dancing again.
From a wedding last year to a baby this year! It’s gonna be another fun summer!
I love you Chelsea.
You are going to be a wonderful Momma!

29 Comments

  1. Heather's Blog-o-rama

    Wow….what a beautiful story!! I’m so sorry about the loss of your sister’s baby. I’ve never had kids, so I don’t understand it..but my mother had two miscarriages prior to my little brother being born. I’m so happy about this little one that is coming!!! This is a sbeautiful story with tears and happiness. What a testimony. Thanks for sharing it here with us. Thanks for writing such a beautiful post! Love and hugs from the ocean shores of California, Heather 🙂

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  2. Ruby Jean

    What a blessing… I can imagine the JOY that has filled your heart at the news… And your sister and her husband.. Congratulations… On the rejoicing over this Precious Gift!!!

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  3. Priscilla

    Thank her from me, for allowing you to share that with your readers. What a wonderful thing.

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  4. WhiteWhispers2u

    Life is so amazing in more ways than we can even imagine~Blessings Kim

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  5. A Cozy Cottage in the City

    What an amazing story! Such a wonderful blessing!!! A close family member suffered a terrible miscarriage when she was 5 months along, and although I have never experienced a miscarriage – I can understand the pain it brings to a mother. Just happy to hear that she will be blessed with another precious gift. 🙂

    Hugs,
    Jessie

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  6. Miranda

    Amazing!! What an beautiful story. God so often takes my breath away with his gifts to us…this is one of those times. Congrats auntie!

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  7. kerrie of sea cottage

    What a beautiful gift from God. I have lost two babies to miscarriage. I have four children and miscarried two after my fourth. The first miscarriage didn’t affect me as much because I didn’t even know I was pregnant yet. But the second, I did, and we had named her and were already attached to her. I still think about her…Rose Juliet…she would be 10 yrs. old now. My oldest son is 21 and just got two cherub tattoos (one for each of his siblings we lost). I didn’t even know how much the miscarriages affected him. It is hard to lose a baby.

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  8. Jenny

    Thanks to God indeed. Thank you for sharing this story with its sadness and rejoicing.

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  9. Gypsy Brocante

    I’m so happy for your sister and family! Amazing how sometimes a woman just “knows” her own body ; )

    … and I have to agree with you about the silence on miscarriage, I too suffered thru two before my last baby was born … it tore me apart. Afterwards I was AMAZED to hear from friends/family/strangers that it also happened to them … and nobody shares this pain openly!? My pain never eased until try number three was successful with the very healthy “Gypsy Prince” {smiles}.

    Sending best wishes and congratulations to your sister and Aunt-to-be!

    xo
    Jill

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  10. cityfarmer

    the dream, amazing, just amazing … I love you both so much … the river of life rolls on

    my kids are having kids!!!

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  11. Stephanie

    That is nothing short of amazing. I’m so happy for her.

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  12. Anonymous

    What a lovely story…and one so full of hope in the Creator of life. As we walk a long, dark journey through infertility with my precious daughter and her husband these types of stories always remind me that He is in control of all things….not just the perceived good. And that He is always good and always gives good gifts. Thank you for reminding me of that today.

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  13. Decor To Adore

    Mr. Decor and I lost several children before Sweet Boy finally was the one to hang on.

    We can’t imagine our lives without him and of course his older sister.

    Babies are the best blessing of all.

    As for the farm in the previous post, my first thought was “Wow, just imagine what God has in store for them.” As He only wants to the best for us your future home will be even more wonderful.

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  14. the cake chick

    wow…I am sitting getting a pedi reading this with tears in my eyes, the woman next to me probably wondering what my problem is. What a story, what a blessing.

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  15. Sherri

    What an awesome, beautiful story!!! I am so glad you still is still pregnant with one of the twins. My youngest daughter had 3 miscarriages before beautiful Owen was born. All the things you said about miscarriage was true. Good luck to everyone!!

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  16. Mandy

    what a beautiful story!how exciting to have one here and know another awaits her<3

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  17. Cottage Remnant

    How amazingly wonderful for your sister and whole family….♥

    blessings,
    Cindy♥

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  18. Valerie

    God is so good! What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. And you’re right…there are so many of us that have personally experienced miscarriage…but don’t really talk about it. Not so much b/c we don’t want to…or need to…but b/c there is a perception out there that we shouldn’t…or that nobody wants to hear our story.

    Can’t wait for your upcoming post.

    Val

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  19. Teresa

    Wow! what a touching story. I can relate. I have nine children and have had three miscarriages. It is a very emotional time for a woman. Lots of hormonal changes and sometimes no one can grasp what you are going through but YOU! In hindsight, one can look back and realize God’s plan and say “ah ha”, but at the time it can be very sad and disheartening. Had I not had my first miscarriage, baby #6 wouldn’t have happened–he is a sweet child. All things in God’s time.

    God always brings good even out the most heart-wrenching situations.

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  20. Bettyann

    what joy for your family

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  21. Passionedeco...perchè le case hanno un'anima

    That’s just incredible Angela. Incredible.

    Many many congratulations to your sister…she must be so happy!

    Oh…yes…I’ve never tried what miscarriage means but I feel so bad even just thinking of it. Yes, Angela, please, say more about that.

    Fra

    p.s. You will hear from me very soon for the PFM! I hope you will like it….

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  22. Sarah (my yellow house)

    This brought tears to my eyes…if this isn’t a gift from God, I don’t know what is ~

    Blessings to all of you,
    Sarah

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  23. Freygirl

    Thank you so much for sharing my story. You did so very well and as much as I cannot figure out all of these changes since baby is our first, I’m just so happy!!! Thanks to all of you ladies for your kind words and happiness for us.

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  24. Lori Bowring Michaud

    What joy! Congratulations to your sister! I too lost a twin. My youngest is 21 and I lost her twin in my first trimester. We almost lost Gabrielle in delivery; her umbilical cord was around her neck three times. That caused a couple issues but she is a beautiful (inside and out), hard working young woman in her third year of college. We are so blessed to have her (and our others).

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  25. Sush

    Sisters there is nothing like them….babies I’ve got a new grandbebe! Grace Elizabeth…a beauty for sure!
    Hugs~

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  26. melyssa

    AMAZING! What a joyful story. I was on the phone with a friend yesterday who told me of her toddler opening a grate in the floor and the nine month crawling over and falling through. Nine feet down into the basement. Onto a concrete floor. SHE’S PERFECTLY FINE. Ack, the scariness of mothering…it starts in the womb and lasts our whole lives!

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  27. Eleonora

    Thank you Lord!!!
    “That my soul may be silent.
    O Lord my God, I will give thanks to You forever.”

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