Dressing your Truth - Finding your Signature Style

Dressing Your Truth, Finding Your Signature Moves

Last week I went to California for a doTERRA leadership conference. It was incredible to hang out with all my internet peeps and sure enough, since we were all primping and preening to look our best in sunny Cali our conversation often turned to fashion, dressing your truth and finding ones signature moves. You ladies are a constant inspiration.

This post is so out of my comfort zone it’s not even funny.

It’s all about comparing. And insecurity. And being a confident, competent women but wondering what others will think. But, here I go…

Yeap – I’m gonna prattle on about fashion and even post awkward pics that my darling son took of me.

I think I might be sick…

Here’s the thing. Despite being uncomfortable with pics of myself like these… I’m settled. I’ve got my personal style figured out and have for some time. I know what works, what makes me feel great. I know what doesn’t work and what makes me feel like a total dork. And I love helping people figure that out too.

Love.

In my other life, when I’m not donning an apron, gathering eggs, teaching children to read and spreading the oily love…. I fancy myself a stylist. Move over Clinton and Stacy. I love helping my friends hone in on their signature style. I love seeing other people realize they deserve to look and feel fabulous no matter their age, size or budget. As for myself, it took three decades but I finally figured it out, my very own signature style, and I’ve learned now not to stray from what works for me and I love chatting about the process with others and offering my opines.

Cause lord knows I’m opinionated.

It all began back in the day when I used to work for BeautiControl and I would help people assess their fashion and body type personality with a quiz very similar to this oneIt was all about whether you were a “Romantic”, “Classic”, “Natural” or “Dramatic”. Actually, scratch that. It began when I was a little girl who fell in love with a princess. See, I was raised on Princess Diana (Yeap – remember when I met her? That was awesome. Remember when she died and a piece of me died too? That one still hurts a bit.) But by raised, I mean HARDCORE. Letter writing, fashion studying… in fact, as a ‘tween and teen for Christmas and birthdays I would get coffee table books about Diana and her life and fashions. Geesh.

I’ve been an old lady my whole life. My friend Shaye and I joke while she was reading Teen Beat, I was scouring Royalty and Majesty magazines to monitor the style wars between Fergie and Diana.

Dressing your Truth - Finding your Signature Style

Please let my gorgeous, mossy silo distract you from that horrid expression on my face. I’m no model. Gag. But here’s the outfit… “skinny” jeans (skinny being relative), a neutral tank with a tweedy jacket. The flower I stole from a crappy, old Target t-shirt, the shoes are Nine West and I’ve had them for years. I bought them strictly for the colour. I call it Peacock green and the bag is Michael Kors; a splurge I treated myself to last year when I got a promotion with doTERRA.  I love it so much.

 

Dressing your Truth - Finding your Signature Style

To add insult to fabulous injury my momma worked part-time at Casual Corner when I was growing up and I got 50% off.  SCORE!. So while kids were pegging their jeans and ripping holes in them on purpose, I was rocking suede shorts, with faux gator flats and houndstooth blazers. Ok – I pegged my jeans for a while there.

I had bitchen bangs and big hair too.

I can not tell a lie.

True, I had some awkward moments but I worked those kinks out during about 14 horrible months in high school and then it got rough again in my twenties as I came to grips with who I was going to be as an adult…and then it happened.

I quit fighting.

I put on my red lipstick and just decided to friggen own who I was. The rest is, as they say, fashion history.

So can you guess my “fashion personality”, my “signature style”?

That’s right. Classic with a side of dramatic.

Inspired by Chanel, Diana, Audrey, Jackie, Marilyn and Liz of days gone by and Gwen Steffani’s drama, Princess Kate’s classic style, Jennifer Aniston’s casual, chic look of today.

Want another quiz? I played with a bunch of them for this post. This one was fun, I came out as “The Wrangler”.

Dressing your Truth - Finding your Signature Style

I love Chanel and Ralph and buttloads of structure and live for drama in my accessories and makeup.  It never fails me. I don’t own a sweatshirt. I hate myself in them (except my navy blue polo hoodie that I lost last year. Still ticked about that.)

I love a classic white t-shirt but I see myself in one and I just look…….round. I hate round. I love angles and structure. Casual for me is much better rocked with a bit of structure. I’m short too, so I love to create the illusion of length anywhere I can. Even if the only person I am fooling is myself. HA!

Dark jeans, trousers, tanks with jackets, dresses (but with structure and no girly frills). High heels, boots, leather “tennis” shoes and as close to a designer bag as I can afford. That’s what thrills me. Tailored, clean and classic. VERY few prints. These are my signature moves.

I have flexibility with the seasons too. Espadrilles and dresses in the summer, layers for temperature changes in the fall. No fuss, French-inspired hair. That’s probably my most romantic move. I like my hair to look a bit more unstyled and feminine. a la Parisienne. Unless it’s my standard 3-inch high heel, I’m all about comfort so that’s about as natural as I get. In fact, I can only wear the photographed jacket for so long. It Itches. I’m like a five year old. I can’t take it.

What about you? What do you feel fabulous on? What’s your signature style?

I think it’s a great idea to harness a couple signature moves, to purge your closet of anything that doesn’t scream: YOU. I love the idea of finding a selection of labels where you KNOW what size you wear and which cuts work. Figure out those strengths and totally PLAY into them. (This is why I shop TJ Maxx cause they carry the same designers all the time and you can really fall into a reliable groove).

Along the lines of the Fashion Personality quiz my friend Shaye (who has abandoned her Teen Beat ways a long time ago) swears by Carol Tuttle’s, Dressing Your Truth and after looking into her philosophy, if you find yourself struggling or with a closet full of crap that you hate – I’d highly recommend it. Figuring out your signature style is life changing. It saves you tons of money and time shopping and gives you a ton of confidence.   Unless you’ve convinced yourself you want to start blogging more about fashion and that requires awkward, constipated looking photos…. I don’t think Carol can help me there.  Eek.

Angela Parisienne Farmgirl Thank you for reading!

 

18 thoughts on “Dressing Your Truth, Finding Your Signature Moves”

  1. You have always had your fabulous style! I remember your 8th grade graduation outfit. You should sooo find a pic of that to attatch to this article!

    1. OMG – I just had the biggest flashback. Wasn’t it some mustard yellow top with purple somewhere and a black skirt with weird suspender things??? I loved it so much. Didn’t Marc Allen “dump” me that night. I ended up crying in my cool outfit.

  2. Karen yourchak

    I am so glad you are not losing yourself as you do all you do. With raising six kids and homeschooling them I lost me. I made sure my relationship with God and my husband was good, the kids taught and fed, sports, art and music. But me got put on back burner. I remember wearing sweatpants to church one Sunday! Then as I graduated four of kiddos I realized I did not know who that plain bland old woman was. I spent two me finding myself again (thank you Pinterest and blogs like yours). I went out bought me a tube of red lipstick, put it on, and looked in the mirror. There she was, the lady I use to be. The pearls came out of hiding! Never looked back. That is why I always tell new homeschooling moms to learn from my mistakes. Thank you for this inspiring post!

    1. How? How do you do it, when you’ve given your all, and you’re still in the trenches?
      I have a 1,3,6,7 who I give my everything to; and my husband gets what’s leftover.

      I’m so overwhelmed I don’t even know where to start. The kids, homeschooling and my husband are all ” fine ” but I feel like I’m drowning. I know life could be happier and full of joy.

  3. You have great style, Angela! I’ve always admired your hair, makeup, and the photos where you have dressed up for a holiday or event. I think you would look amazing in an Amelia dress. If you’d like me to send one to you for you to review, please let me know. I think it would suit your style! 🙂

  4. This is timely. I just took 2 garbage bags of clothes to Goodwill this afternoon after emptying my closet of things that made me feel sad or “blah” or are too big now that I’ve lost 25 pounds. Limited budget has been the biggest factor in the decline of my wardrobe, but this SAHM has a part-time job now and can finally invest in some things that make me happy. And shoes! Yay! A presentation by Image Truth on dressing for your shape and skin tone at MOPS last week got me started. Now I’m off to take one of these style quizzes.

  5. Brilliantly stated Angela! Brilliant! I too, am a Diana follower – I remember her paring well. Here is some TMI – I had my first period on her wedding day…. I was just about ready to turn 14 that July…. I remember it well as I thought of myself finally a “lady” and grown up. Sweet memories of a young girl I was. I probably fall into a classic style myself – I like Chanel and many styles that Jackie Kennedy wore. All the old movies that starred Lauren Becall and the Maureen O’Hara. My mother was older when I was born but she was very much pulled together…all the way up until she passed away at 84. She never shopped in jeans…always a coordinated outfit with matching accessories. I grew up in the country and jeans were my voice at the time because I was afraid of the comments from others my age. Had I been sent to a boarding school I probably would have developed those finer style points about myself. I often think now that I’m older that I am like a renaissance woman – I an multipassionste just like yourself I.e., home educating (STILL) and running a home, a business, a marriage… it is exhausting at times shifting into roles and responsibilities multiple times a day – your points about knowing your style and rocking it to the world are so very true. Bravo to you for putting yourself out here and using your voice to champion the authentic woman each of us are. Bringing our true selves to the table makes for a splendid meal….wouldn’t you agree? Bon Appetite!!

  6. The perfect T and skinny jeans with uggs or short boots. Or else the same T with bootleg jeans and flip flops. Big silver hoop earrings. I’m 48 next week and this is it for me. No heels. Maybe a cute skirt with the perfect T and flip flops. I’m boring. 🙂

  7. I was chatting with a lady at Nellie’s Barn Sale last year. We were talking about different blogs and area sales and she asked me if I’d ever met you. I said I hadn’t and she said that she thought you were absolutely stunning in person (her words). I just thought you’d like to know that.

  8. okay, #1) You’re so freaking skinny!!! looks like you lost every ounce of Junior weight! congrats! #2) I love your style on you, but I am more soft, feminine , flown and florals. And it’s funny, I dress in jewel tones,mainly plums, navy, and emeralds, they look best on me, but I would never in a gazillion years decorate with them. I decorate in whites, pinks, baby blues, aquas and soft greens. I have huge boobs, so that greatly affects what I can pull off
    #3)I went through the first bit of dressing your truth and hated every second. It seemed gimmicky and her just trying to make a buck. There was a lot of new agey weirdness too. No offense to Shay!

    1. Agree on Dressing Your Truth new age and mimicky (also no offense to Shay). Choosing what colors to wear based on your personality type isn’t logical at all. And when I saw one homeschool mom of four dye her hair purple and cut it shorter than her clean cut husband, while strutting her stuff in leopard print all in the name of Dressing Her Truth, I was even more skeptical.

  9. I too was into style and fashion. Took me 45 minutes each morning to get my beehive up as high as I could. I even drew fashions for Millie the Model comic book that were used. I drew fashion all the time and I was always right predicting next year’s style, even as a kid in grade school. I went to college for fashion design, but my teacher was a Hell’s Angel and I had the idea he was training us to sew on the machines for the fashion district so I quit. Kids meant I never had money for myself, then I lost my good figure and today I am relegated to pull on pants and the nicest tops I can find. Occasionally a scarf. I rarely have more than 3 pairs of shoes at a time. So much for fashion. I want my figure back, and if it somewhat happens, my new wardrobe will be more stylish. Meanwhile, I enjoy watching what you wear as a style maven. Love you, girl!

  10. Ha! The dressing your truth comments really interested me since me and my friends have been(trying to) dress our truth for the past few months. I like it. I like what it started for me. I plan on strictly dressing type 1 (my type), but mostly I like that it focused on finding my virtues and expressing their elements in my clothes/accessories. We can do a great service to our community by allowing our virtues to be seen and felt on the most superficial part of us,our clothes,you know, the part everyone sees!

  11. Hello there! Would you mind if I share your blog with my Facebook group?
    There’s a lot of people that I think would really enjoy your content.
    Please let me know. Thanks

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