Toxic free self care for moms, essential oils for skincare

Is there really time in life for self care?   Can you take care of your skin without toxins?   Is toxic free skin care and makeup even possible?  Self care for moms?  That’s a good laugh. Is there such a thing?  Does it REALLY matter what we girls spread all over our face once or twice a day?  These are all questions I’ve asked myself over the years and so I share with you a bit about my self care journey.

It all started with a farmer’s wife.  Of course.

Self care for moms

Breakfast, chores, laundry, laundry and more laundry, diapers, dishes, computer time, homeschooling, weeds, manure, shopping, more meals, more diapers, more laundry… I would submit to you that there would be nothing abnormal about waiving the white flag of surrender and giving up on caring for ones self.   Come on, I’ve wanted to hoist that falg a time for two.    One less area in life where we have to fight.   How easy would it be to just… give up?


My Gramma was a farmer’s wife.   Tall, dark hair, lovely, but she confessed she didn’t know much about self-care, skin care, makeup… she spent her days raising five children, in her strawberry patch, driving the grain trucks to the elevator, keeping the farm books.   Self care for moms?  I seriously doubt that was on her  radar… or should I say, CB radio?  Perhaps a good perm now and then and some ponds cold creme.

One day that all changed.   She met a lady who sold skin care and makeup and she booked a “party” for a weekend where my mom, myself and all my aunts would be present.   I was twelve years old and I’ll never forget it.   All of us gals around my Gramma’s big round farmhouse table, washing, toning, blending foundation, learning how to do that 1990’s crease on the eyelid.   It was a riot, but it forever changed the women in our family.   (Except that one funky aunt who married in.   Red hair, glitter nail polish, purple eyeshadow…)   That day Gramma bought us all skin care sets, some foundation and and some eyeshadow palettes.   We learned how to comb our brows and dress for our “season”.  We ALL became totally committed to washing our makeup off, wearing makeup daily, using anti-aging cremes, OK, so I wasn’t using all that makeup and wrinkle cream at twelve years old but the moral of the story is that self care became a huge priority for the women in my family that day.  At least that’s the way I  remember it.   As a young woman I started on a journey of learning how to care for myself and to have the women in my family leading the way, had a profound impact on my commitment to do so over the years.

Self care for moms

Left to right: Aunt Ruth, My Mom, Me, Aunt Julee, married-in red headed Aunt Ardy and my Gramma. Taken on the day Gramma hosted the makeup & skin care party.

I feel very blessed for that.

Self-care has always been a priority for me.

Self care with children

Yes, I homeschool, live on a farm and go days without interacting with another soul outside of my family.   But I’m still me.   Angela.   I want to look nice.   More importantly, I want to feel nice.   Even if I’m caked in dirt.  Or snot.  Or crumbs.   I’ve never found a reason to give up on presenting myself.   True, my hair contains copious amounts of dry shampoo and I’m known for wearing the same dress ’til it’s ripe but I choose to make an effort via mascara and lipstick and it’s helped me retain a measure of sanity in a crazy life surrounded constantly by seven people who need me constantly.

But I have one regret.

When I look back on all the toxic ingredients I’ve used on my face and body, in the name of self-care, beauty and upkeep...I cringe.  Straight up poison.   Hindsight is 20/20.   Thank goodness.  And in the last couple years I’ve had some serious “come to Jesus moments” about anything that I put on my body.   So can we just talk about things for a minute?

self care for moms

Toxic free beauty products?

I would say that my natural health journey began when I discovered the idea of home birth.   We’re not even gonna go down that rabbit trail now.   (I’ve done it six times.  I know the “risks”.)   BUT, when I came into this group of “weird” people who would dare have their babies at home, I began to learn about OTHER alternative health methods.   I began to grow very cautious of anything that seemed “normal” when it came to health and I made some great changes for myself and my family and I believe those changes have paid off in spades.  I cut growth hormones out of our dairy products, I cut GMO ANYTHING out of our diet, I cut back our sugar drastically, I learned to cook real food… But for some reason I never connected the dots with my self-care routine.

Essential oils for skin care?

It’s been FOUR YEARS THIS WEEK so I think it’s worth mentioning as we are celebrating around here.  I began with doTERRA Essential Oils four years ago on a bit of a whim.  It was the wild west.  My fellow blogging friend Shaye called me and said, “You should try this this company with me.” and BAM.  I tried it.   I loved the oils and had amazing results with some thyroid and neurological issues I was having.   Lest I sound dramatic, essential oils rescued my health.   I was told by my husband to NEVER run out of them because they changed my situation so quickly and we had been desperate for answers.  So now, here I was, repping these amazing oils, helping people with natural solutions to their health care, but I still wouldn’t give up my poisons in my self-care routine.  I had two thoughts with me about this.   Number one, What in the WORLD could an essential oil company know about skin care and when it came to makeup I thought, I’ll go natural, but I WON’T walk around looking like a health food store hag.   (Don’t hate me, but you know the look… peasant dress, peaked, pasty complexion with a half coat of mascara on to seal the deal.)

Essential oils for skin

And what was for dinner?   Crow.

I had to eat crow.   I learned more and more about the garbage that was in the cosmetics I wear every day and as I became more and more knowledgeable about essential oils I began to learn more of what they were really capable of when it came to my skin.   I began to connect the dots that if oils work on the cellular level… then DUGH... they could work on the CELLS of my skin.   I was dealing with a NASTY pregnancy mask at the time and I was desperate for answers.   I looked into Rodan and Fields but when I showed the ingredients list to my midwife she said, “No way.”   and that really got my attention.   Could there really be a connection between my health and the products I used on my face?   OK… I’m slow.   I get it.   I began to learn what sort of side effects all that crap I was using on my face had.   All in the name of vanity.

Indulge me while I touch on a few of these ingredients, just to jog your memory as I KNOW you’ve seen these ingredients in your bathroom…

Sodium Lauryl Sulfate / Sodium Laureth Sulfate

It’s inexpensive and it’s found in a ton of industrial cleaning agents.  It’s used in jet engines as a degreaser.   Think your skin is sensitive?   I wonder why?  This is one of the most COMMON irritants in skin care and it’s the first ingredient I became aware of as toxic for my body.   It’s in just about every product in all those cute bottles at TJ Maxx.   All that pretty packaging contains…. garbage.

Parabens

Cheap, effective and in almost everything you buy for your skin and body.   The most common are butylparaben, methylparaben, and propylparaben.  From Real Simply.com  “In the 1990s, parabens were deemed xenoestrogens―agents that mimic estrogen in the body. “Estrogen disruption” has been linked to breast cancer and reproductive issues. And in 2004 British cancer researcher Philippa Darbre, Ph.D., found parabens present in malignant breast tumors.”   YIKES!   Here I had been making all these great strides over the years to grow my own food, avoid medications when not needed, eat organic food…. and I’m smearing cancer cream all over my FACE twice a day???   Oh, and parabens are in FOOD too!   Yep, last year I found them in my families favorite Mexican tortillas!

Fragrance

It’s everywhere!   “Fragrance” is a mystery term for who knows what.   It covers a variety of ingredients.  Just look at all the bottles in your makeup and skin care… not to mention your fragrant lotions.   “Fragrance” is a generic term for, how shall I say this?   God knows what?!   And it’s linked to allergies, dermatitis, respiratory distress and possible effects on the reproductive system.   The point I’m trying to make, and I can’t say this enough, is that all these things are hormone distruptors.   Our beautiful bodies simply don’t know what to do with this garbage.

Propylene glycol

It sounds nasty right?   PG is nasty biz.   It’s classified as a skin irritant and penetrator.  It is known to cause dermatitis as well as hives in humans.

Formaldehyde

Wait, we use that on dead bodies, right?   It may be found in your nail polish, body washes, conditioners, shampoos, cleansers, eye shadows, nail polish treatments.  Sigh.   Can a girl get a break?   Formaldehyde was deemed a human carcinogen by The International Agency for Research on Carcinogens (IARC).   Yummy.   That’s what I want to smear on my body every day.

Blue Tansy for skin care

Blue Tansy in my Hydrating Creme is my secret weapon!

Well, there are other websites that will say it better than I am.   But these are just five ingredients that I know SO many people are using every day in an effort to look great and I wanted to mention them because it’s SO easy to clip along and think you’re doing this self care right thing.   These days I’ve switched to Tarte makeup products because I’m very impressed with their ingredients list.  This has been a long weaning process and I still have some garbage to get rid of in my makeup bag.

So… what DO I USE?

For my skin care, I use a variety of doTERRA essential oils and a a variety of their Essentials and Verage Skin care line.   I was skeptical for so long.   Wondering how MY OWN company could know what they were doing with skin care.   I am a self professed skin care snob and you can read about that here.   Again…. eating crow.

You’ve probably read this far into the post because you care, or you WANT to care about your appearance and I DO APPLAUD you for wanting to look great.   It breaks my heart to see moms especially sacrifice what they see in the mirror on the alter of their role as wife and mother.   And may I encourage you?  NO ONE.   And I mean NO ONE is going to fight for your self care the way you can.   No matter how great your husband is, I’m guessing he’s not going to come to you after a hot mess over the stove, flipping pancakes, and say… a-la Ryan Gosling…

“Hey girl, Why don’t you take three minutes and go throw on some concealer and mascara?”

It ain’t happening.   But YOU can make it happen.   YOU matter.   YOU can carve out those five minutes to care for your skin and throw on some lip gloss.

Healthy self-care is two sided.    We need to make HEALTHY decisions in the products we chose to use on our bodies and we need to make HEALTHY decisions in how we treat ourselves as women.   There is NO need to wait for a special occasion for a swipe of mascara and there is NO excuse for going to bed with your makeup on.   And for heavens sake, you’ve got ONE skin.   It’s the outfit you wear every day.   Don’t wait a few more years to start taking care of it in a healthy, non-toxic way.  Don’t even get me started on that….

So here’s what I’m going to do, since this is a topic I LOVE.   I’m going to teach a LIVE class on Tuesday night with my friend Shaye of the Elliott Homestead.  If you wanna come, ALL you have to do is email and tell me.

Angela@parisiennefarmgirl.com

We’re gonna talk skin care and self care for moms.   Sort of like I did on Instagram a few weeks ago.  (THAT was a riot, I’m sorry if you missed it.)   I want you to email me and let me know you’d like to register OR you can follow the prompt when you leave this page, you’ll have a chance to enter your email address there.   Let’s continue this conversation Tuesday evening and if you can’t make it, BE SURE to register anyways and I’ll make SURE you can a recorded copy to watch at your leisure.  Even if you’re reading this after Tuesday, let me know and I’ll get you a copy of the class.

And now, after a day of manure spreading and masonry work on our “French Fireplace”, I’m going to go wash my makeup OFF and apply some gorgeous, toxic free skin care full of decadent essential oils.

‘Cause I deserve it.

Don’t forget to email me to join my “Love the Skin You’re In” live event.   Angela@ParisienneFarmgirl.com.

See you Tuesday!

Á mardi!

Self care for moms

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